Oxford Community Schools recently found themselves in the crosshairs of outraged moms and dads after a “bullying” survey blindsided parents with questions about their kids’ gender identities and sexual preferences.

At a school board meeting on April 22nd that looked more like a courtroom drama, parents stepped up to the mic to unload their concerns about asking their young children about their gender identity and sexual preferences.

A video showing the parental pushback, provided by Off the Press on X, shows a mom saying to the board, “My son hasn’t even reached puberty yet and you’re asking him his sexual preference? His gender identity? He’s third grade. That’s absolutely ridiculous.”

Another parent pointed out that the survey was supposed to be about bullying but the second question on the survey was about gender identity. A mom commented, “That was not a fair thing to put in front of our children without us being able to see it first.”

According to a report from journalist Dave Bondy, parents had told him that during the first round of the survey, they could opt their children out – but they said that the gender identity and sexual orientation questions were not included in the parent preview. During the second round, parents say they didn’t have the opportunity to opt out and that their kids were forced to take the survey.

The school has commented that the survey for students in grades 3-5 didn’t include any questions about sexual orientation or preferences.

Their statement went on to say that the survey was “optional and anonymous for all students. Parents were informed in advance, had the opportunity to review the questions, and could decide whether their child participated. Students also had the option to skip any question they didn’t feel comfortable answering.”

So it’s up to you to decide where the truth lies: with the school’s statements or what the parents have said.